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When “Real Life” Gets in the Way

I’m so sorry to any dedicated readers that I haven’t posted in a while. Quite a bit was going on this summer with my vanilla job, that unfortunately that became my main focus for a while. Now, of course, I still made time for kink. It’s all about balance, remember?…

FinDomme =/= ProDomme

If you didn’t know the different before, you will by the end of this post. Simply, a ProDomme offers paid sessions. The submissive is the client and the ProDomme is offering a service and a particular experience. They may also have clip sites or be on a service such as…

Chastity

I learned about chastity right about the time I started to explore my Domme side. I was talking with a sub and he mentioned owning a cock cage but never really getting a chance to use it. He was traveling for work and could wear it while out on the road. After that first day,…

Financial Domination

I had been thinking about this post for a bit and was planning for it to go in a different direction but I’m in a certain head space today and this is my blog, so tough. There are many reasons why findom is a particular kink of mine. Those that try to criticize the kink…

How I Switch

I’m not going to go into my entire history with BDSM but I do want to talk a bit about my relationships and how this whole thing works for me. I’m going to explain it a bit like a hierarchy, as that’s the easiest way to start. My boyfriend is my real-time partner. It’s really…

The Collar

This is about the collar. What it means and its significance within the BDSM community. The closest thing that comes to symbolizing a collar in the vanilla world would be a wedding ring. But I’m not sure that even that is quite the same. If submission is the greatest gift that a submissive can give,…

Balancing BDSM and Vanilla Life

I could have also entitled this post “Benefits of Online-Only BDSM”. Here is my theory for why so many people choose the way of online BDSM. Someone who is naturally submissive is forced to be dominant in their personal lives and use online submission as a way to fill that need. Perhaps they are in…

I am a Switch

Much like sexuality, I believe that a person’s nature within Dominance and submission lies on a spectrum.  If Dominant were on the left and submissive on the right, Switch would be smack dab in the middle. Dominant ————————- Switch ————————— Submissive I firmly believe that these are natural states of being. Sure, a Dom(me) can…

Community Sub vs. Under Consideration vs. Owned

Like so much in this world, everything has multiple levels. The same can be said for submission. Community Submissive This is a submissive that likes to play the field. Maybe they prefer pay-to-play (meaning they pay for sessions). Maybe they enjoy the freedom of giving to many Dommes. This is where you should begin your…