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Deeper – Cuckoldry

This is my brand new post series call “Deeper” where I take a deeper dive into specific kinks. I’ll give definitions and talk about the several different ways in which this kink can be explored in either a real-time or an online setting. For my very first Deeper post, I’m excited…

When “Real Life” Gets in the Way

I’m so sorry to any dedicated readers that I haven’t posted in a while. Quite a bit was going on this summer with my vanilla job, that unfortunately that became my main focus for a while. Now, of course, I still made time for kink. It’s all about balance, remember?…

Sub Drop

You may have never heard of this before but if you’ve been in the scene, you may have very well experienced it and didn’t even realize. This specific post was spurred on because I broke a sub recently, or at least I thought I had before realizing that I may…

What What in the Butt

Anal play! Let’s just put this out there in the open. If you are a male and you enjoy anal play, that DOES NOT automatically make you gay. Unless that dick is attached to a male. You can have your girlfriend peg you and you can still be straight. *Gasp!*…

Online D/s Sessions

I’ve written a post about why people may choose to go the online route versus in person. Now I’m going to share with you how it can work with sessions. As someone who Doms primarily online, I’m sick and tired of hearing “I will only consider real-time sessions” or “You’re not a ‘real’ Domme if…

Chastity

I learned about chastity right about the time I started to explore my Domme side. I was talking with a sub and he mentioned owning a cock cage but never really getting a chance to use it. He was traveling for work and could wear it while out on the road. After that first day,…

How I Switch

I’m not going to go into my entire history with BDSM but I do want to talk a bit about my relationships and how this whole thing works for me. I’m going to explain it a bit like a hierarchy, as that’s the easiest way to start. My boyfriend is my real-time partner. It’s really…

BDSM and Mental Health

Let me start off by saying BDSM should never be a substitute for therapy. Is engaging in BDSM practices therapeutic for some? Yes. But if it is being used as such, it should be under the guidance of a licensed professional. With that out of the way, let’s begin at the end. Aftercare. Aftercare is…

The Collar

This is about the collar. What it means and its significance within the BDSM community. The closest thing that comes to symbolizing a collar in the vanilla world would be a wedding ring. But I’m not sure that even that is quite the same. If submission is the greatest gift that a submissive can give,…

Balancing BDSM and Vanilla Life

I could have also entitled this post “Benefits of Online-Only BDSM”. Here is my theory for why so many people choose the way of online BDSM. Someone who is naturally submissive is forced to be dominant in their personal lives and use online submission as a way to fill that need. Perhaps they are in…