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BDSM

Limits. Yes, You Have Them

What are limits? Limits are usually split into hard limits and soft limits. Hard limits are your absolutely nos. These may include things you have tried in the past that you never want to do again, or it may simply be things that you have absolutely no interest in. Soft…

But You’re Supposed To Be…

The phrase “supposed to” in regards to BDSM really pisses me the fuck off. You’re a Domme so you’re supposed to be mean. I’m a sub so I’m supposed to be a loser…. NEWSFLASH! This is bullshit. It’s ok if you fell into this trap, I did too at first.…

When “Real Life” Gets in the Way

I’m so sorry to any dedicated readers that I haven’t posted in a while. Quite a bit was going on this summer with my vanilla job, that unfortunately that became my main focus for a while. Now, of course, I still made time for kink. It’s all about balance, remember?…

Sub Drop

You may have never heard of this before but if you’ve been in the scene, you may have very well experienced it and didn’t even realize. This specific post was spurred on because I broke a sub recently, or at least I thought I had before realizing that I may…

Finding the Right Dom(me)

How do I find the right Domme? I was actually a bit surprised when I was asked this question three different times in the span of 24 hours. So I thought I’d add some of my advice. Now remember, take this all with a grain of salt. If you do…

What What in the Butt

Anal play! Let’s just put this out there in the open. If you are a male and you enjoy anal play, that DOES NOT automatically make you gay. Unless that dick is attached to a male. You can have your girlfriend peg you and you can still be straight. *Gasp!*…

Hurt Me. Please?

sa·dism /ˈsāˌdizəm/ noun noun: sadism the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others.   mas·och·ism /ˈmasəˌkizəm,ˈmazəˌkizəm/ noun noun: masochism the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from one’s own pain or humiliation.     My first taste of BDSM actually came with my first college boyfriend at 18.…

Online D/s Sessions

I’ve written a post about why people may choose to go the online route versus in person. Now I’m going to share with you how it can work with sessions. As someone who Doms primarily online, I’m sick and tired of hearing “I will only consider real-time sessions” or “You’re not a ‘real’ Domme if…

Twitter Domination

Yes folks. It’s that kind of post. Slightly rambling, mostly venting….so buckle up. Twitter is fucking shit. Yeah, I said it. Is it good for self promotion, sure! But it’s a huge game. As a Domme, merely tweeting isn’t enough to gain any traction. You need carefully thought out posts with pictures that tantalize and…

FinDomme =/= ProDomme

If you didn’t know the different before, you will by the end of this post. Simply, a ProDomme offers paid sessions. The submissive is the client and the ProDomme is offering a service and a particular experience. They may also have clip sites or be on a service such as NiteFlirt. A FinDomme is a…